Latest update (9 Oct): Treespotter had a bout of insomnia and has written a well-argued and balanced, if lengthy, piece on his taon all the blog discussions going on about bules and pembantus here.
Update: Now there are four blogs discussing the subject of Expat men and Indonesian women. Thang Nguyen’s blog, Indonesia Matters, JavaJive and here (see comments). I do not know why it is so but it makes for interesting discussions, with some participants overstating the case, others getting emotional and still others attempting to demonise others with labels such as racist. One fascinating aspect of these discussions for me is why there seems to be a difference in perception between Westerners and Asians/Indonesians on the partner preferences of some Westerners.
Have you heard an Indonesian, especially an Indonesian woman, wonder why it is that bules seem to go for women with pembantu looks?
If you have you might want to check out Thang D. Nguyen’s examination of the eyes of the beholder here.
Is he being honest or is he just being racist?