Why single women remain bachelorettes?

May 20, 2008 in 1

Is it particularly difficult for overseas educated Indonesian women to find their man? Or is the author below, Therry from Indonesia Matters, protesting too much, especially with a blacklist that obliterates probably 90% of the men she’s likely to meet in Jakarta?

And is it any easier for sensitive males to find their counterparts? You’d think so from Therry’s lament. But is it so?

clipped from www.indonesiamatters.com
Typical Indonesian guy, whose ways of thinking repel us so much we shudder at the very thought of him. The mind games, the play-hard-to-get, the sleazy attitude, not to mention the somehow twisted attitude that they think females are only good for cooking, cleaning, bearing children, acting feminine, and being plain submissive – need we explain more?
Overseas-veteran bachelors with over-indulgent parents who give them with BMW’s and Mercedes Benzes and do many of the other destructive things that filthy rich people do to their kids, thus unknowingly making these potentially fine young men turn into selfish ignorant brats who suffer from what we like to call “The Little Emperor Syndrome”.
Foreign men, expats – forget it. Most of them are fat and balding with burnt red skin. Anyway, these guys go for the authentic Indonesian looks so there’s no way they’d be interested in women like me who don’t look that way.
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3 Replies

  1. finallywoken

    May 21, 2008 at 5:35 pm

    Unspun, Therry is not single :) . So she has met a man that fits her criterion. But as I have mentioned in IM and her blog, what she’s looking for in man (or men) are most of Indonesian girls do, whether they’re overseas graduates or not.

    And just like in any other part of the world, we’d find chauvinist, selfish, alpha-male type who want to be served and they’re the king, everywhere. Not only in Indonesia.

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  2. therry

    May 22, 2008 at 3:26 pm

    Thank you Anita! *hugs*

    We’re all in the quest of looking that someone who is extra-ordinary! Why settle for second best when there’s the best one out there? I do believe it is true :)

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  3. Marisa

    May 22, 2008 at 8:20 pm

    I’ve posted numerous random comments on the post. I must admit that I got a little bit carried away with the subject, knowing that I’m an It’s-Complicated female single trying hard to earn grad education abroad. Can’t refer myself as being Westernized though, I cannot even define the word without having (anti-West) people intimidating me in return.

    But here’s my latest comment:

    Yawns.

    Yes well, why should we bother on others’ personal lives anyways? Happiness, intellectuality, love, it’s a core quality in life. It’s too personal and individual to be standardized according this and that. And those who do, are simply too shallow to perceive life, most likely because they themselves lack the complexity, substance, and depth in their own lives.

    Mind me for saying, but the married ones aren’t any less fucked up than the single ones anyways. Funny how people seemed to forgot the fact that spoilt little brats could also grow up to become spoilt little adults.

    ..that complain too much.

    That includes me amongst many. :D

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