The misconceptions about men, women and HIV

Here’s one to challenge your preconceptions about men, women, sex and HIV by Wisdom of Whores author Elizabeth Pisani.

This should be food for thought, especially for the gender champions who tend to think that education and empowerment would solve much of society’s ills and reduce the rate of HIV infections.

Men are pigs, women are angels. Not.


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As promised, data on women, autonomy, partnerships and HIV. It’s quite true that I have not developed some magic indicator of “autonomy”. But the World Economic Forum has. Or at least its Gender Equality Index is as close as damnit. Let’s take the sub-Saharan African countries at either extreme, and set their equality index against their HIV rates:

On individual measures that are often indicators of women’s ability to make their own choices and decisions — educational level, for example, we see a strong correlation too, both at the national level:

and at the household level:

So, in countries where women are more equal to men on measures of workforce and political participation as well as education, there’s more HIV than in countries where women are more constrained. In countries where women are more educated, there’s more HIV. Within countries, more educated women are more likely to be infected with HIV.

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Model Nation

What’ with Malaysian Men in Power (MMIP) and foreign models? First we had the saga of the Mongolian model where the names of MMIPs Prime Minister Najib Tun Razak and his associates were involved.

Now we have the Kelantan prince and the Indonesian Model Manohara. The Indonesian Press is naturally having a field day with this story as it appears that there are all sorts of seedy goings on, including sexual problems, alleged kidnaps, family intriques etc etc.

Which raises the question of whether such liaisons speak of the alluring power of such models or do they speak of the power trips of MMIPs, who probably have a hard time getting it up but want to overcompensate by possessing the most exotic and “beautiful”?

For account and summary of this sordid affair in English, as well as lots of pics of the desirable Manohara, go here

Jakarta – Model cantik Manohara Odelia Pinot (17) pernah mendatangi seksolog dr Naek L Tobing. Hal ini dilakukan untuk berkonsultasi tentang seluruh permasalahan di rumah tangganya.

“Ada konflik di antara mereka. Pokoknya macem-macem soal rumah tangga,” kata Naek saat berbincang dengan detikcom, Rabu (24/4/2009) malam.

Kunjungan itu dilakukan sekitar 2 bulan lalu. Mano datang bersama ibunya, Daisy Fajaria. Waktu konsultasi pun tidak berlangsung lama.

Dr Naek enggan menjelaskan secara rinci persoalan yang dikeluhkan Mano saat itu. Namun ia mengaku, dibahas juga tentang kekerasan yang terjadi di dalam rumah tangga mereka, termasuk kekerasan seksual.

“Semualah macam-macam kekerasan, saya tidak bisa menjelaskan panjang lebar. Lebih baik ajak saja ibunya ke mari untuk bicara lagi,” pungkasnya.

Ngobrolin model cantik Manohara Odelia Pinot? Gabung di sini.

via detikNews : situs warta era digital | Mano Konsultasi ke dr Naek Soal Konflik Rumah Tangga.

Chick on Child Sex Tourism and Women’s Exploitation

Compatriot Michael Chick, an occasional commentator on this blog, was recently in Bali for the Convention on Child Sex Tourism and talked about his work, which has had him traveling around this region for at least the past one-and-a-half years shooting film– sometimes at danger to himself — about sexual exploitation to the Bali media.Unspun’ll try to upload a videocast interview with him sometime over the next two weeks.
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VIVAnews – Ada 60 kasus eksploitasi seksual komersil anak (ESKA) yang tak pernah terungkap di media difilmkan. Ini diangkat seorang produser film asal Singapura, Michael Chick saat menggelar jumpa pers di Sanur, Kamis, 19 Maret 2009.
Film berdurasi 2 jam ini mengangkat cerita di kawasan Asia Tenggara yang dianggap telah mewakili peristiwa di dunia. “Saya tidak membedakan kasus yang terjadi di Malaysia, Thailand, Vietnam juga terjadi di belahan dunia lain,” kata Michael.
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Muslim Women and the pestilence of small-minded bureaucrats

My Asylum‘s brought Unspun‘s attention, via Facebook, to a Malaysiakini report of a Sisters-in-Islam’s campaign against book banning, after the Bolehsia government banned “Muslim Women and the Challenge of Islamic Extremism”.

No doubt Muslim women would consider parochial, self-righteous, holier-than-thou bureaucrats one of the challenges as well.

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‘No book-banning campaign’ launched
by S Pathmawathy (Malaysiakini – Aug 19, 2008)
Non-governmental advocacy group Sisters-in-Islam (SIS) today launched a postcard campaign against the banning of books and demanded for review of all banned books.
The move by SIS entitled ‘No Book Banning Campaign’ was the result of the Home Ministry’s decision to prohibit the movement’s publication Muslim Women and the Challenge of Islamic Extremism co-authored and edited by University Kebangsaan Malaysia’s sociology professor Norani Othman.
The campaign themed ‘book banning = book burning’ comes as a collective initiative by SIS, Centre for Independent Journalism (CIJ) and Writers’ Alliance for Media Independence (Wami).
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I’m too sexy for my Uniform

Indonesian friends would not believe Unspun when he tells them that Neanderthals live in Malaysia. Here’s the proof. Malaysian Neanderthals are creatures that are easily excitable because of their small brains. They have been known to have an orgasm when they thought a pice of driftwood was making eyes at them.
Click here fto find out why Patrick Teoh is having an erection.
Malaysia Boleh!
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School Uniforms Sexy, Says Group

KUALA LUMPUR: A Malaysian group condemned the uniform worn by girls at government schools, saying it encouraged rape and pre-marital sex.

“The white blouse is too transparent for girls and it becomes a source of attraction,” National Islamic Students Association of Malaysia vice-president Munirah Bahari said in a statement.

“It becomes a distraction to men, who are drawn to it, whether or not they like looking at it,” she said, calling for a review of uniform policy so that it did not violate Islamic ideals.

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How Indonesian women are perceived?

Unspun has never been in a position to know women enough to presume to make pronouncements about them, Indonesian, or otherwise. Unspun is just content to admire.But others, such as Indcoup, are braver. Unspun wonders what Indonesian women have to say about his comments of them, some of which are clipped below:

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20 things you should know about Indonesian cewek
2. Indonesian women think dark skin is bad, but they still adore Anggun.
8. Don’t call her “Manis”. That’s what they call kids. “Sexy” is best and “Sayang” is cool, but “fucking awesome” is okay when she’s slightly pissed
9. If you have something to hide, she’ll find it. Be especially careful of whose namecards you have in your wallet, the filth on your hard drive and the names of your “contacts” in your handphone.
10. A lot of Indonesian women like shit music like Peter Pan and Dewa 19. Don’t say you haven’t been warned.
11. Over the course of her life, an Indonesian woman will use 10 men for every one she loves. If you’re paying for her younger sister’s education and you’re not getting any pussy yet, you’re one of the 10.
14. You’ll probably never know how many guys she’s slept with. The standard lie is she had been a virgin and that you were the first!! Hahaha! In truth it’s somewhere around 10-15.

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Miss Jilbab 2007

When most of us were enjoying our Idul Fitri holidays, a contest was in the making. On October 1, 20 finalists of the Miss Jilbab 2007 contest was selected in Surabaya. The contestant that eventually won the coveted crown-on-the-scarf was one Devi Fatin Adila. No photos could be found of the veiled beauty but here’s a Jawa Pos shot of some of the finalists.

Guest post: Jennie S. Bev on being a triple minority

Unspun got into a conversation with the prolific Jennie S. Bev, a “Chinese-Indonesian” now living in the US, about the issue of race, gender and minorities first in Should Unspun or Shouldn’t Unspun. Not wanting to dilute the discussion of that posting from the issue at hand, Unspun asked Jennie to guest post on an issue close to her heart: being a Triple Minority in Indonesia – female, non-native and non-Muslim. Here’s her take:


By Jennie S. Bev (

As a person who was born in Indonesia, I belong to the so-called “triple minority” category: female, non-native, and non-Muslim. I was boxed into this category early from the beginning, from the day I was born into this world from my mother’s womb. It is a class in its own, which comes with consequences and treatments from the society. It is as if my soul, which is neutral and equal with anybody’s, wears a Minnie Mouse’s outfit. But instead of looking like a cartoon character, it is in the form a Mongoloid-looking female.

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Sheldon and Yuyun continue to appall

This is from Miund’s blog The English Part of My Brain. Age difference is one thing, totally divorced from discretion  and taste. Photos of Sheldon, Yuyun and both wearing Javanese wedding costume.

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I just can’t help using profanity as the title of this post. I was chatting with my friend a couple of minutes ago, and she asked me whether I’ve seen this website. I clicked on it, thinking it was a prank site… and holy CRAP…I was truly appalled. As an Indonesian woman, I am angered to see my kind being treated like prostitutes. But as I took a deep breath and tried hard to calm myself down, I realized that what’s written in that website is true. Uneducated Indonesian women will fall easily for foreigners of any colors. Not just caucasians. As long as there’s a man who speaks other language, and comes from outside Indonesia, he’s automatically TO BE SERVED. And this phenomenon apparently exists EVERYWHERE… and sadly they are now a business commodity.

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Parliamentarians accuse women of “leaking” every month

What is it with Malaysian politicians and women. Why is it so difficult for them to respect women? And why is it that they can still get away with it? And why is it that their “apologies” all fall far short of apologies?The MPs in this story said they would apologize to women “if” their remarks had insulted them. Meaning that they themselves do not think that their remarks are insulting.

Unspun bets a few women are still smarting over Tengku Adnan’s “all women bloggers are liars” comment.

Why is it that these despicable testostrone-filled bags of shit are still allowed to keep their titles of datuk, tengku and what not after making fools of themselves? If the Royal families want to live up to their supposed titles of defenders of the rakyat perhaps they should think of stripping these people of their titles.

Yet another reason to live away from Malaysia, so that one is not smeared with such attitudes and blatant injustices.

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KUALA LUMPUR (May 18, 2007): Ten days after making a sexist remark in Parliament, the two “bocor” MPs relented to the furore of women in the country and apologised.
Emerging from a 40-minute meeting with Women, Family and Community Development Minister Datuk Seri Shahrizat Abdul Jalil this morning, both said they apologise to all women in the country if their remarks had insulted them.

However, Datuk Bung Mokhtar Radin (BN-Kinabatangan) and Datuk Mohd Said Yusof (BN-Jasin) refused to refer to Fong Po Kuan (DAP-Batu Gajah) when asked whether the apology was also extended to her (Fong).

Bung had in the Dewan Rakyat on May 9 remarked that Fong also “leaked every month” (in apparent reference to women’s menstrual cycle) during a heated debate on Parliament House’s leaky roof.

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Doesn’t pay to have a shotgun marriage in Indonesia

Reader Lara Djongkrang sent me this item of news, which should be a cautionary tale to young people out there to be good, and if you can’t be good, at least be careful. There is a cost to having fun without the protection.

Jakarta, 31/5 (Antara) The Religious Affairs Office (KUA) charges double for couples registering their wedding that has happen due to accidental reasons, such as pregnancy outside a marriage.

“The fee for such a couple is quite something at IDR 1.5 million (USD162) and the number of those couples in Jakarta is relatively high. The fee for normal wedding registration is IDR 700,000,” said an employee at a KUA branch in Sawah Besar, Central Jakarta, who wished to remain anonymous.

The employee revealed that the treatment and the cost for couples registering accidental marriages is different than that for normal registration. This is because the former usually requires much faster administration process compared to the latter.

Note: This posting is NOT sponsored by the rubber industry.

Women, feminists and sensitive men: prepare to be aghast

Indonesia is a land where there are many beautiful and intelligent women but why, oh why, do they have to choose Nadine Chandrawinata to be the country’s representative?nadine.jpg

As my colleague Be Kind, Rewind has wiritten in his blog, Nadin does not exactly embody the intelligence part of what a Miss Universe contestant should be. She may have Beauty and Body but Brains? And here we are not talking about just someone struggling with a second langage but a thought process.

Another friend wrote me to say:

Okay, I think this is sooooo embarrassing.
Miss Indonesia (Nadine Chandrawinata) says Indonesia is a city. Hello???
You should check that link to her interview video, definitely you will laugh and cry.

“My admirer is Mother Theresa… so I really adore at her…” ???
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